Week two of Breakfast, Lunch & Dinner this Sunday at 9:00am, 10:45am, and 6pm. Food Trucks after the first two services and we are grilling before the third service. Stay late and eat in the morning or show up early in the evening and eat.
Over the past 15 years I have intentionally tried to grow as a leader. Here are five things I’ve learned about becoming a better leader.
Early on I was deeply convicted that I do not have because I do not ask. I didn’t want that to be the case for me as it relates to leadership. One of the prayed prayers for me is “God, increase my wisdom and ability to lead so that I might better honor you.” I can’t pinpoint how this prayer is answered by I know there have been numerous times when I have been in situations where I didn’t have any clue as to what to do and God gifted me with the right words, direction, or faith to lead with.
Don’t know who coined this phrase but I have often heard it said that leaders are readers, and I have greatly benefited from the numerous leaders who have penned books. I know I don’t know a lot, and thus I am very intentional about learning all that I can. I have people come into my office every week, and they say, “did you read all of those books?” and my answer is, “pretty close.” Why? Because I know there are people out there who have learned lessons that I need to learn, and they have freely shared their thoughts (or at least shared at the price of their book) with those who would invest the time in reading. I know some people just don’t have the time to read or they are a slow reader. For me there is so much out there I can’t get to it all. That is one of the reasons why I signed up for this a couple years ago.
#3 Find Mentors & Coaches
My life has significantly been enhanced by the wise counsel and advice of others. It is more than advice though. A coach has the capability of calling more out of you than you thought you had in you. A mentor is able to guide you through obstacles. Both have a way of helping you reach your full potential. I know full well that I am not that smart. Asking others for wisdom for my current situation has paid huge dividends. I used to be immersed in a culture of great leaders. There have also been seasons when I have paid others to coach me.
#4 Mistakes Will Happen
The agony of defeat has been an experience I am all to0 familiar with. I have been humbled time and time again by making mistakes. There are certain mistakes leaders make that disqualify them in one way or the other. Those aren’t the mistakes I am talking about. Those shouldn’t happen! Yet the mistakes that have been a part of my leadership are still painful. They have impacted relationships, trust, financial resources, and clarity. I have spiraled after missteps losing sleep and questioning who I am. What I am learning though is that more mistakes are in the horizon. That mistakes aren’t so much a definer of who I am or even what kind of leader I am. Knowing that mistakes happen isn’t permission to not try my best but recognizing that they come with the territory of leadership has somehow been helpful.
I believe it was Nelson Searcy where I first heard the acronym for system (Saves You Stress Time Energy and Money). I am blown away by how implanting systems has not only made me a better leader. Some misunderstand systems. They paint them as something impersonal or not necessary. My experience has been just the opposite. Without a follow-up system, we would miss out on numerous relationships because they would have slipped through the cracks. Without a budgeting system, we would mismanage money. Without systems, we would not be able to raise up more leaders and volunteers. I am always trying to identify another system that will help me personally or thebridge corporately.
Well it was my mom’s birthday today and I can’t help but reflect on all of the ways she shaped me into being who I am today. Almost every memory I have of my mom is me being on the other side of a sacrifice she made for me. There were the numerous doctor visits, hospital runs, and sleepless nights where she literally fought for my health. She made sure I made it to practices, games, and tournaments. She wouldn’t just drop me off she would stay and cheer me on and encourage me with her favorite slogan of, “Go get ‘em Tiger!” My mom was the champion of laundry, keeping house, and preparing meals. She created traditions and valued family. She was the first and last one to say I love you. She taught me to pray and encouraged me to trust Jesus.
I love you mom!
I don’t know if there has ever been a song that has stuck in my head as long as Unstoppable God. On a trip to Charlotte my wife and I attended Elevation Church and the message ended with this song. It has been a song that I have sung in my head nearly every week since that trip in October. It was finally released on an EP recently and I was able to hear it again for the first time since that trip this past Saturday. Here are a couple versions of it.